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Every person is willing to get success. Why only few people get success? Some people in spite of all difficulties and challenges convert impossible in to possible and achieve success, where some other people are always struggling and remain mediocre through out. their lifetime.

So, what is the difference that makes the difference? All successful people know that the secret of their success is their capability of taking right decision at right time. Each person willing to become successful knows that you need to have a powerful mind to be successful. You may have already noticed that, people who are successful are more decisive and have more control on their mind than the people who are not successful. It is the capability of taking right decisions makes a person successful or a failure. What you can learn from this is the more control you have on your mind the more powerful and successful you become.

Every body has tried to change some thing in their life some time and failed because something has always held them back from changing. Would you like to change the way you live your life? Are you happy with the way you live your life currently?  If you are not, the first step you need to take is learning how to use your mind more effectively. The more control you have on your mind more successful you become.

Getting success is a challenge, if it were not I am sure everybody would be successful. While most people spend, their lives struggling to earn their living a much smaller group seem to have everything working out for them and enjoying life instead of just earning their living.

While for much larger group, life seems to be unfair and unjust. A person says I am good person, a good husband, a good worker how come these are the people happy and prosperous and I am always struggling to earn my living. Why nothing seems to work out for me I am even smarter and willing to work harder than some of these other people who just seem to have everything going their way. For becoming successful in fact, you got to be more than just a good person or a good worker. You got to be a good planner and a good dreamer, you got to see the future finished in advanced.

It is very rightly said if you can visualize you can actualize. Your subconscious mind is like a magnet and it attracts whatever you focus on unconsciously.

You got to put in long hours, put up with set backs and disappointments. You got to learn to enjoy the process of success rather then just knowing the secrets of the success. You need to be prepared to attack the challenges if you want the success because challenges are the part of success.

The process of going from average to fortune is not all that difficult. Thinking about it is a difficult part. Anticipating all the efforts in the process of changing are far worse in mind than in the reality.

The challenges you meet on the road to success are far less difficult to deal with than the struggles and disappointment that comes from being average and mediocre. Confronting and overcoming challenges is exhilarating experience. What actually prevents us from taking right decision at right time than? Its our self esteem.

Do you find it more difficult than most to reach important decisions? When faced with a problem, are you able to stay reasonably objective or do you internalize the situation? Every individual perceives crises situations differently and thus, handles them differently. People with high self-esteem generally feel confident when faced with unexpected life challenges, while those with lower self-esteem constantly question their ability to cope with them. The good news is that through self-awareness you can work on “the weaker parts” of yourself and unleash your individual talents and uniqueness in all arenas of your life.  

Becoming more self-aware is not always easy or fun, however. Individuals must be completely honest with themselves, and this requires patience and perseverance. Low self-esteem may stem from the following:
(1) negative childhood experiences,
(2) repeating negative patterns in adulthood and
(3) feelings of failure. 

Do newborn babies come into the world worried and distressed or do they come into the world clean and ready to explore? Unfortunately, as children we are unable to choose our environment or upbringing. All we have to go on is what our parents and schoolteachers tell us. Some parents praise their children by saying things like, “I’m proud of you” or “You did a great job.” Others criticize their children by saying things like, “You’re so stupid” or “You should know better than that.” Did you know that children actually pick up their own parents’ fears subconsciously and are victims of their parents’ projections? 

Now think about a child who was raised in verbally and/or physically abusive surroundings. How does he or she learn to cope? This child has three choices:
(1) He or she can follow their parents who lead them like “sheep”,
(2) He or she can rebel against their parents or
(3) He or she can go back and forth between the two behaviors.

The point: when children grow into adolescence, they must find a “balance” between listening to their parents and making their own independent decisions.  Parents with low self-esteem need to heal themselves so they don’t further contaminate their child’s mind.  

Low self-esteem may also stem from negative patterns continued through to adulthood.  Perhaps what you learned as a child is showing up in your own marriage and/or other relationships. Abusive relationships of any kind are “familiar” territory, and this “familiarity” is what perpetuates negative behavioral patterns to begin with. If “daddy” had a bad temper and hit his daughter, for example, that child (who is now an adult) might go out and marry a man just like him, if she fails to break the pattern through self-awareness work.  

Poor self-esteem may also arise from “feeling like a failure”. Individuals may perceive a life change or life challenge negatively or incorrectly. For instance, losing a job, doing poorly on an exam, or getting a divorce may feel like “the end of the world” to one person and a “temporary downfall” to the next. Individuals with low self-esteem internalize failure and always look for others to boost them because their environment doesn’t. Now science called NLP is available to us, which can help enhancing the self-esteem.  

Three tips on how you can boost your self-esteem are worth mentioning here: (1) Recognize your uniqueness, (2) Understand whom the problem belongs to and (3) Open up to someone trustworthy to guide you through the process.

In order to recognize your uniqueness, ask yourself the following question and write down your answers: “What am I good / great at?”  If it’s music, writing, swimming or all of these things, right them down. By making a list for yourself, you will soon tap into your true self. The next step is to go out and do those things you love and further develop your skills.  

Next: understand that deep-rooted negative feelings come from being around negative and  toxic people for too long. Remember that critics really criticize what they don’t like about themselves. This is known as the “mirror effect.” Critics are subconsciously saying, “I see in you what I dislike in me.” By understanding that their views belong to them and not to you, your self-esteem is more likely to stay when negative words are said.  

A final tip to boost your self-esteem is to speak to a trusted friend or therapist. By opening up to a good listener who cares about you, you will begin to let go of negative feelings  and feel restored.  

Furthermore, until you deal with your self-esteem issues, business success cannot be fully achieved or enjoyed. By working on your self, success must follow. Ignoring your problems and repeating the same patterns is an unhealthy road to nowhere.  Poor self-esteem will linger in all of your business dealings. If you were obliged to behave like a “sheep” following your parents’ demands as a child, you might do the same thing in the workplace and get eaten alive “by wolves”. Take the first step and be honest with yourself about where you are in your life, and especially where you hope to see yourself in the future. 

Now picture this scenario: You see yourself as a child, struggling in a difficult or unhappy environment. You suddenly experience negative emotions you’ve kept bottled up for years. You discuss your feelings with a close friend or therapist. You find yourself letting go of everything you’ve kept so close to your heart due to feelings of shame. You suddenly feel light, like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders. You see how you’ve held yourself back from all the wonderful things you have yet to experience in life. We are all beautiful human beings and we each have the right to be who we are. Unfortunately our environment may shape some of us to believe otherwise. The good news: healing comes from within and can be spread once we all recognize that everyone in this world is equal, and should be treated as such.

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